honor remote_allow_list in hole punch response (#1186)

* honor remote_allow_ilst in hole punch response

When we receive a "hole punch notification" from a Lighthouse, we send
a hole punch packet to every remote of that host, even if we don't
include those remotes in our "remote_allow_list". Change the logic here
to check if the remote IP is in our allow list before sending the hole
punch packet.

* fix for netip

* cleanup

lighthouse.go

@@ -1337,12 +1337,19 @@ func (lhh *LightHouseHandler) handleHostPunchNotification(n *NebulaMeta, fromVpn
 		}
 	}
 
+	remoteAllowList := lhh.lh.GetRemoteAllowList()
 	for _, a := range n.Details.V4AddrPorts {
-		punch(protoV4AddrPortToNetAddrPort(a), detailsVpnAddr)
+		b := protoV4AddrPortToNetAddrPort(a)
+		if remoteAllowList.Allow(detailsVpnAddr, b.Addr()) {
+			punch(b, detailsVpnAddr)
+		}
 	}
 
 	for _, a := range n.Details.V6AddrPorts {
-		punch(protoV6AddrPortToNetAddrPort(a), detailsVpnAddr)
+		b := protoV6AddrPortToNetAddrPort(a)
+		if remoteAllowList.Allow(detailsVpnAddr, b.Addr()) {
+			punch(b, detailsVpnAddr)
+		}
 	}
 
 	// This sends a nebula test packet to the host trying to contact us. In the case